Fifty Shades of Grey

Okay, I literally only watched this movie because of a dare. Don't judge me because I watched this. I didn't pay anything for it (watched my friend's copy) so I didn't waste any money on this piece of crap rape fest.


(Spoilers!)
 
As Fifty Shades gained more popularity and getting made in a movie, I've been seeing a lot of people try to raise awareness about how this franchise is not about BDSM, but about domestic and sexual abuse. The "relationship" between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey is not BDSM, though many people who read this will argue that it is, but that makes BDSM sound like something that is not consensual. Something like rape.

I bet a lot of you who read this have no idea what BDSM is about. Consent is necessary, and partners take care of each other. After the acts and role plays, the partners comfort each other. They don't shove each aside. They don't force anyone to do anything that they aren't comfortable with. Fifty Shades is none of this.

When Ana first meets Christian, she's a virgin. Christian gives her an ultimatum. Like he jumps into it. She either signs the contract and be subject to his every demand, or get the hell out. Because of her inexperience sexually, Christian is able to manipulate her to push her boundaries and make the violent sexual activities that he's into seem okay. He doesn't comfort her after an act, but instead is irritated at how upset she is. He also doesn't care about consent. He gets her drunk to get her consent, which is by law rape. At one point, Ana also uses the safe word, which takes away her consent. Does Christian listen? Nope. He continues to rape her.

Christian Grey is also a control freak. He's crazy jealous and easily angered - to the point that Ana fears for her safety. How does that sound okay? This entire crappy series destroys the true concept of BDSM. Literature and Film have a huge role in the mindset of young  people today. Young men and women read/watch this smut and assume that that is normal for BDSM. This monstrous series romanticizes and fetishizes abuse, making it seem fun and sexy. This series should not in any way be defended. Think about your life. Do you know anyone who was abused? Would you want them to think that it's okay to be treated like that?

Want me to clear up BDSM again? In case you still don't get it? BDSM is all about consent. Every single person involved gives their consent. Fifty Shades of Grey? There were many instances in which Ana did not give her consent, or she revoked it. In case you didn't know, even if you are in the middle of consensual sex, and suddenly someone says "stop" or gives a safe word or says they don't want it anymore, you have to stop. If you continue, it's rape.

Don't get me wrong, you are free to watch/read whatever you want, but don't defend Fifty Shades of Grey and claiming that it's all consensual, because it's not.